8 and 9 Months Old 

I never got around to posting Month 8 so I am doing 8 and 9 together. 
Both boys started sitting up independently about a month ago. Dylan started crawling just a week ago. I knew he was going to be first! He is already trying to pull up on everything as well. Leo will sit in the same spot for a good 30 minutes observing everything and looking at his different toys. Dylan is all over the place and does not really sit still. 
The twins are so much fun to be with and Ian really gets a kick out of them. When I walk around with all three in our stroller, Ian will spend his time playing peek a boo, singing them songs and trying to make them laugh. The twins love it and think he is the coolest. It makes my heart melt. 
We are loving summer and spend our days at the neighborhood parks meeting up with Ian’s buddies for play dates. The twins like swinging in the swings and also love to sit in the sand and feel it on their toes and hands. This does involve some sand eating which I try to intervene here and there but some makes it in the mouth. 😂 We’ve also hit up the wading pool a few times. The twins love it, especially Leo. He will just relax in his floatie as if he’s sunbathing. I’ve never seen a baby as relaxed as he can be. It boggles my mind. Dylan meanwhile is splashing all over the place and just having a ball. Of course, than Ian got jealous and wanted his own floatie and I ended up letting him use Dylan’s. I learned my lesson and realized we need three floaties, one for each of them. 😂
The twins are pounding down the solids and are eating three small meals a day along with nursing. That’s a whole lot of eating which shows in their size. They are both wearing 12 month old clothes. 
Nights are still good for the most part. Every few nights Dylan can be a stinker but it happens a lot less frequently so I’ll count it as a win. I’d like to lose the one feeding they have in the early morning and push it out to 7 or 8am so we may work on that this month. We’ll see. 
I think that covers it! 

Sleep Training our 7 Month Old Twins

These past couple months have been really rough sleep wise. The twins were on a great schedule of eating at 2 or 3 am and then again at 6 or 7 am (so basically one feed a night) but then at around 5 months old they went through a growth spurt or something and started to eat three feeds a night. They seemed to get past that and went back to two feeds a night again which would be fine except for Dylan is waking up frequently after falling asleep at 7pm and needs to be given a pacifier or picked up a couple times an hour with it getting really intense between 10 and 12 pm. He wasn’t hungry or needing a diaper change, he just seemed to want to be held or have me standing there with my hand on his chest. I have tried taking him into our bed to see if he just wanted to be near me but Dylan just gets excited and riled up instead of going to sleep so cosleeping isn’t really an option, which I guess I am glad its not because I like having the bed to ourselves. 

Finally, three days ago after several weeks of sleepless hours between 10 and 12/1am of constantly trying to get Dylan to go back to sleep we decided that at this point sleep training was necessary. I read a fellow twin mom’s blog about why she decided to sleep train her twins and it totally hit it on the nail for me and was the incentive I needed to do it (Blog Link Here).

 You see, I had such a fear of sleep training and I didn’t understand how parents could listen to their baby cry without going in to comfort then. Ryan and I didn’t do any sleep training with Ian and although it took a long time for Ian to sleep through the night, he eventually did by about a year and has been a great sleeper since. With Ian we did a lot of cosleeping and letting him nurse when he wanted. But after a year my milk had run out so we kind of naturally weaned him off of the night feedings which in turn let him sleep through the night. Bedtimes were a long drawn out thing though and could take up to an hour to an hour and half with lots of rocking but again we stuck it out and by a year and a half he was happy to go to bed and bedtime is a 20 minute deal ever since. So lots of good success came out of it all and we never had to let Ian cry it out. Well, what we’re discovering now is that what worked for Ian isn’t the same for Dylan let alone when we have two babies. Dylan has some sort of sleep association with needing me or Ryan near him anytime he wakes himself up. I also have a theory that he is waking up when he moves through a sleep cycle and doesn’t know how to put himself back to sleep. He is not hungry, he is just mad/sad about waking up! Keeping all this in mind we decided now was the time to sleep train so Dylan can learn to soothe himself back to sleep without needing mommy or daddy. Here is my log with my progress so far. It’s been hard (REALLY HARD) but we’ve started to see results so that has been AWESOME. 

Night 1:

Ryan went out of town for a work trip so I decided that was a good time to start because that way just one of us was suffering. Sometimes when one of the twins is crying or freaking out we kind of can take it out on each other because you know, you can, whereas you can’t get mad at your baby. So it was good to just to do it on my own and cry and suffer without needing to also see Ryan suffering too. 

The night started out well with Dylan waking up a couple times between 9-10:30 but I let him be and he went to sleep ON HIS OWN after a minute or two of light crying. That was pretty great. Normally we rush in to give him a pacifier and to see that if we just leave him alone he can just work it out! Well, that was so good to know. 

Well, then things got tough. Starting at 10pm and till 12:30pm Dylan cried. I would go in, using increments, first 3 minutes waiting then go in, then 5, then finally 10. By the time I got to letting him cry for 10 minutes he had worked himself into a state. This was at 12ish and I had to pick him up to calm him down and he was shaking and having little hiccups while crying – IT WAS SO HARD. Why was I doing this to my baby?!!! It felt so wrong! I kept just wanting to give up. Meanwhile a little earlier I had brought Leo into my room because he was waking up from Dylan’s cries. I managed to continue to stick it out but man, I was feeling drained. Finally, FINALLY, after picking up Dylan after a 10 minute cry and setting him down calm and almost asleep, he went to sleep. This was at 11:45pm. After waiting 10 minutes to see if he was actually asleep I too went to sleep. Around 1am Dylan woke up but I decided to feed him since his normal feeding schedule has been 12am and 4am. The point of this sleep training was more to get Dylan to sleep on his own from 10pm to 12am and eventually we would push out his feeds but not tonight. Leo meanwhile was still sleeping and normally I would wake up Leo to feed but I decided to let him keep sleeping. Leo stirred around 2am and I nursed him then in bed. Since he was right next to me it was so easy and I was able to be half asleep during it. Then Dylan slept till 4am and I fed him again. Leo kept sleeping again so I let him. Leo woke up at 6am wanting to play so I decided to feed him just because I wanted to try to get 1 more hour of sleep. It worked and Leo went back to sleep. We all got up at 7 am and that was the first night! Whew. Exhausted. But I made it. The good news that came out of it, Dylan ate a little later at night at 1am and and 4am. Leo only really needed to eat once! I was prepared to continue with this sleep training the next night even though it was so hard 

Night 2:

This night was intense, even worse than Night 1, but I made it through. Dylan ended up eating only once so that was the great news out of it. We were down to one feeding! 

Again, after both twins falling asleep easily by 6:45pm, and minimal wake ups until about 10:30, Dylan started his usual shenanigans. Dylan was up crying intermittently from 10:30 to 1:30. Yes, 1:30! Arghhhhh. I was so tired. But when he finally fell asleep he slept till 4 with no feeds! So that was the good news. The bad news was that I was about to keel over from lack of sleep. 

Basically from 10:30 to 1:30 Dylan kept waking up but he didn’t seem hungry when I held him which Is why I didn’t feed him at 12:45. He just needed comfort but as soon as I set him down he would cry again and I would give him 10 minutes before going back in. Eventually he gave in and fell asleep at 1:30am. Meanwhile Leo was sleeping again in my bed. I moved him in there because he began to wake up from Dylan around 12am and I didn’t want to deal with both twins crying. Leo only ate once as well at 4 in the morning. I transferred him back to his crib after feeding him and both of the boys then slept till 6:45am and woke up happy and ready to play which is their normal MO. They then ate at 8am. So overall even though I suffered till 1:30am, both boys ended up with just one feed! Progress!

Night 3:

Ryan came home and took over on the sleep training so I could get much needed rest. I got to sleep in the guest bedroom with white noise and it was amazing. I woke up with a start at 3am. 5 hours of straight sleep. Thank. The. Lord. Or more like Ryan in this case. 

Ryan came in shortly afterwards with Leo. He said Leo kept waking up so I took him. It was 3:30 so I decided to just feed Leo and Dylan and see if they would sleep the rest of the night. And it worked! They both slept the rest of the night in their cribs and didnt wake up until 7am. I fed them as usual at 8:00am. So lovely! I talked with Ryan more about his night and it turns out that Dylan only woke up twice in the night and it was Leo who kept waking up! I couldn’t believe it. That is such a difference. Leo is normally a great sleeper so I think he may have just had an off night. We shall see how night 4 goes. I am just happy that Dylan had a great night!

To be continued…

 All in all though, I feel like in just three days we have made a big shift with Dylan waking up less on that 3rd night and both boys only eating 1 time instead of 2 or 3 times. I am happy feeding them one time a night until they are around 9 months and are eating more solids or if they just don’t seem hungry anymore at that time. Whichever comes first. 

Grateful

Thank you to my wonderful husband for pushing me to take a staycation. I spent the night at a hotel downtown and had about 10 hours of glorious sleep. Slept in and had breakfast in bed and relaxed with coffee and a book. And to top it off I came home to a clean house and happy twins and toddler. You’re amazing Ryan! 

Swing-a-ling 

Our sleep deprivation continues with Ryan and I waking up almost every hour last night. Luckily Ryan was home! On a happy note it was warm a couple days ago and I took the twins and Ian to the park to meet up with Ian’s buddy’s (and  their mom’s who are my buddy’s 😜). 

My friend Anna mentioned that the twins could go in the baby swing together and I was like, “oh my gosh, they can?! They’re already big enough?”  Brilliant! They loved it in the swing and Ian had so much fun pushing them.

Also, another first: I nursed both twins at the park while Ian played. My friend Megan held Leo while I nursed Dylan and then vice versa. It went great and I felt like Super Mom. 


And of course Ian had a blast with his buddies during it all. Here’s pictures of Ian with his buddies:



So overall even though I have been struggling at night with the constant wake ups, day-to-day life is great. I have a great rhythm and routine going with Ian and the kiddos and overall we have so much fun together during the day. This lack of sleep time is such a short moment in our lives and I constantly have to remind myself of this and that I am so blessed with what I have and the help and support. Having twins and a toddler is hard work but so rewarding and I love it!!! 

I am a Parade

I gotta say, walking around with the Bob Revolution Stroller with my twin boys and toddler Ian perched on the front (who needs a glider,right?!) I get so many looks and comments I feel like a parade marching through town. It’s hilarious. And I kind of like it. I guess I’m a bit narcissistic and enjoy the, “wow, you’re super mom,” or “boy, you have your hands full! Great job!”  These are thrown at me all throughout the day. It’s like I’m constantly being acknowledged for all that I do. It’s lovely. I know I wouldnt get this much recognition if I had just one baby and Ian. I almost feel bad for the mom’s with just two let alone one. Where’s their applause? They have a hard job too, being a mom for the first time is so scary and new. And then adding in one more! Whewee. I think we all deserve the claps and recognition for being amazing moms whatever our situations are, of course my family being the parade that we are, just get a lot more feedback. But congrats and well done to all those moms out there!

I’ll end with posting a link to the song called “All the Wine” from one of my favorite bands, The National. There is a lyric in that song that always runs through my head as I walk around town with my big ass stroller, with the twins and Ian perched up front:

“… I am a festival, I am a parade…”

5 Month Old Twins

5 months is here already! Wow. I can’t believe they will start eating solids soon. Speaking of eating, the twins are doing the cutest thing ever. When I nurse them at the same time they reach over and hold hands. It is the sweetest thing to behold. Just nursing away holding hands. I wish I could post a pic but that would be weird. Right? Yes, I’ll just answer that myself. It would be weird.

Dylan has now started rolling from his tummy to back and vice versa. He is very strong and seems like he can almost push up to his hands and knees.

Leo, on the other hand, is Mr. Chill. He doesn’t feel the need to go anywhere so has not been rolling. Only just today did he roll on his side. It’s just so funny how personality has to do with why Dylan is moving all over the place and Leo just wants to relax right where he is. I’m 100% positive that Dylan will be crawling and walking before Leo. And Leo will be perfectly okay with it (and so will I). 😜

Leo gets his helmet this week to round out his flat head. His doctor told me he can tell Leo is a good sleeper by how perfectly flat the back of his head is. I was like, you’re right, he doesn’t move a muscle where as Dylan is rolling all over his crib. The doctor said that 12 hours of deep sleep every night is what created Leo’s flat spot and that made me feel a little better. I was thinking I hadn’t done enough tummy time even though I had done a ton. Anyways, if you’re a mom you just get this guilt and that helped relieve it a little.

Both boys’ eating habits and naps are more on a schedule which is really nice. They eat four times a day and usually just once at night. Their long nap actually lines up with my 3 year old’s most days so that is when I get my coffee break with some reading or whatever else I want to do. I try not to do chores even though I feel like I should because I feel like my sanity it more important. 😬

Looking forward to what month 6 brings!

4 Month Old Twins

These boys are just so cute! They are laughing now which is one of the sweetest sounds you can hear. Dylan (on the left) seems almost mischievous with his cute smiles while Leo is so sweet. When you hold Leo he completely relaxes into you, he’s such a cuddle bug. When you hold Dylan he squirms around trying to look everywhere and stiffens his legs and arms and pushes off of you with his strong legs. It’s just so funny how even when you hold them they are completely different.

They have a lot more head control now and I am starting to sit them up in different toys which they really like. I think they enjoy their new view. 😜

Some disappointing news: Leo’s head in the back has gotten really flat so we will likely be getting him a helmet. Just like Ian. I’m a little bummed because I did a ton of tummy time to prevent this yet it still happened.

On another note, things are starting to get intense at the Gladney household. They are awake more during the day which means needing a lot more attention. Their naps seem short and infrequent plus they seem to do it at OPPOSITE times which means it’s rare for me to catch a break. I’m really hoping to get them on a actual nap schedule in this next month.

Sleepwise at night is still pretty much the same (6 hours between the first feeding at night) although last night they both slept till 4:30 without needing to be fed which was 8 and a half hours! Now if only I can get this to happen consistently! I just bought the miracle baby sleep sack so I’ll give it a shot and see if it helps any.

Okay on to month 5! Wish us luck!